For my next blog series I am tackling a subject I have learned a lot about in the last couple of years – conflict. When I left North Yorkshire Police, I prayed a lot about learning how to deal with conflict in a Christian way. In the police I had a recognised power and authority behind me, in Christian terms we do not always think about what God may be saying when it comes to conflict as we are too busy having our own noses put out of joint! I have learnt that when you ask God for a certain characteristic you rarely get given that characteristic in it’s perfect form, but rather you get plenty of opportunity to practise.
As such I will be sharing with you some of my thoughts and feelings on conflict especially between Christians. I am by no means an expert at this, but I do think it’s a shame when it’s rare for Christians to be honest with each other about how they feel. In fact I think a lot more honest would probably negate most of the need for conflict. Maybe we will get there one day? You may see some repeated thoughts from older blogs – like I said this is a journey I have been on for at least two years and I don’t see an end in sight yet!
It takes courage to be honest with someone who has hurt you or you are worried for. Most people these days will avoid doing it, but as I grow in my leadership I have realised that I not only need people to be honest with me I need people to be honest with me. I do not want to find out that people hated my last sermon through gossip! In order to do this I need to model integrity and honest, as we will see in this series it is never a bad thing to start with yourself.
Philippians 4:8 ‘Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.’