The Bug’s Life wallpaper has finally been removed from the walls of John’s bedroom. John, who is thirteen years old, has lived with this infantile wallpaper since he first moved into what was previously his sister’s bedroom several years ago. Bethany chose the wallpaper when she was just a toddler. John has never liked it, and tried to cover the wallpaper with posters. The problem was the hassle involved in emptying John’s room to gain access to the walls to remove the offending wallpaper and redecorate.
John’s loft bed has also gone. It was sold to friends whose young son is over the moon with his new furniture. While the bed was never an issue for John, its proximity to the bedroom ceiling became increasingly problematic as he grew taller. A new bed is on order. A new carpet has also been ordered, and by the time these items arrive the bedroom will have been decorated in colours of John’s choice. It will finally be a teenager’s bedroom, rather than one with characters from a toddler’s favourite movie displayed over all four walls.
There is a time or a season for everything in our lives. There is also a time to move on. We cannot expect to remain as small children, or even as teenagers. We are required to grow and mature. Sometimes it takes commitment to rid ourselves of things from the past. We get used to the Bug’s Life wallpaper and banging our heads on the ceiling. We don’t like it but it is just too much hassle to make changes and move forwards.
In time John will grow tired of the colour he has chosen for his walls. He will continue to grow and at some point follow in the footsteps of his older siblings and leave home. He will not be ready for that step for several years, and it is my responsibility as his father to prepare him for that day when it comes, and to support him in his life for as long as I am able.
We may not like or welcome the changes that come as time advances, but the fact is that there are seasons in our lives, and we are required to move on. It is important to remember that we do not travel alone. Our Heavenly Father prepares us for each new season and supports us as we progress through life’s journey. As tempting as it is to accept and live with infantile wallpaper, that is not what God wants.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 NIV